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如何用dating apps/websites一周至少见两到三个男生 ?

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我的profile(short version for app and long version for match/eharmony/OK Cupid)有参照小麦mm的文章写draft并拍照+选照片, 再请用online dating apps/website成功找到另一半并且订婚的好朋友, 还有另外一位好友的曾经用过online dating apps/website的未婚夫和他的男性友人,一起帮我逐字review,像改CV / cover letter一样 (3位都是native speaker并都有graduate degree, 所以文法和用字遣词/sentence structure应该还行)修订我的内容, 也请两位男士帮我挑照片/排序,如果不好意思给板上姐妹们看+也没有其他用dating app/websites成功的闺蜜的话,大家觉得我还可以如何做呢?

另一方面,很有可能是聊天内容不够有趣/flirty,所以对话无法进展到让男生约我见面, 我贴一下几个之前的对话,大家帮我看看?  我这方面真的悟性很差,也不知道要如何在短期之内快速提高,  年龄越来越大,真的好着急,小麦mm之前的文章有cover一些见面后的对话,但这个部分比较没有着墨,那几本推荐的书也没有着墨这个”如何发有趣的短信让男人想跟你见面”,之前有看一位mm分享(“这半年Online dating 20多人一点实战经验和个人看法 。如何发短信”),无奈我资质愚钝,还是领悟不来,大家可以分享一下你们是如何提高的吗? 感谢!

Sample 1:
Guy: trying to watch as much golf and nfl as possible!
ur projects def. sound exciting!
Me: How long have you been playing golf? Are you really good at it? Haha, they are super exciting projects :D Any plans for your holidays?
Guy: like 20 years I think - i used to be good, but was terrible last weekend!
No big plans for the week, what about u
Me: 20 years! It's a long time! Yeah, you don't practice it, you lose it. I just came back from XXX. Spend my holidays with my family :) Will relax this week :)
然后男生就不理我了…

Sample 2:
Guy: Hi XXXXXX! What’s something you’ve learned to cook recently?
Me: I’ve tried miso salmon tofu recently. Sooooo good!!! And you?
Guy: Oh wow that sounds great! I’m a big salmon eater. I’m not a great chef but I found a seafood paella recipe online recently, and it turned out really well! Easier than I thought.
Me: I feel that cooking is like doing the scientific experiment….but you can eat the final product :D
Guy: Haha true! I think it’s also a creative expression. So I guess it’s both an art and a science! A piece of art that exists only for a few minutes and then is gone forever
Me: haha, exactly!!! :D
然后男生就不理我了, again…


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LZ看到有人分享可以用dating apps/websites一周至少见2-3个男生,可是LZ的经验是

  • CMB一天只推送5-6个男生,常常1-2天才match到一个;
  • Bumble 平均30秒看完一个profile, 一天早晚各花15分钟,真的match到可能就1个;
  • Hinge一天只能送10个like, 平均2天可以match到一个;
  • Match有filter的功能,注册没多久以后,我把筛选出来的符合条件的男生都主动针对他们的profile customize 谈话内容发信,LZ大概主动发了70几封邮件,回复的大概有20个人,真的聊到约出来见面只有3个,然后系统就没有符合条件的candidate了,只能等,看看有没有新用户加入;
  • OK Cupid现在必须要双方都互相like才可以connect, 变成很像Bumble的形式
  • Eharmony推送的几乎全是dead profile (连照片都没有),用了一段时间,什麽都没match到,LZ已经死心了

这些上述dating apps/websites平均聊20-25个可能只有一个最后约出来见面,再加上现实生活中参加活动认识人,偶尔会有男生主动开口要跟我约会,我才很勉强的一周见一个男生,有人知道一周至少2-3个男生到底如何操作的呢? 可以分享一下吗? 感激不尽
最后编辑Misoshiru 最后编辑于 2020-01-02 22:42:15
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我如果不是工作忙,一个星期可以见5-10个
我只用bumble
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Bumble好多推送啊
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天啊,感觉lz拿出了投简历找工作的劲头在dating,要不要先放松一下心态。最终只要一个match到就可以了,重要的是质不是量。
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profile是不是需要改改? 我觉得一般都是见不过来的状态。
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见面率太低的话,可能1。profile不够好 2。自己开启聊天不够吸引人 3。设定filter/决定connect的条件太严格
建议:
1。加上魅力po上来让姐妹们给你改改profile,不好意思的话拿去给身边姐妹改改也行,记得找那种换了好几个男朋友的,不要找一个男朋友就结婚了的那种姐妹
2。po一些对话上来,大家看看跟你聊天是不是有趣
3。放宽自己filter,即使不在自己严选范围内,也connect,聊天甚至见面当做练手,这样你遇到那个他才知道怎么一举成功
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见面率太低的话,可能1。profile不够好 2。自己开启聊天不够吸引人 3。设定filter/决定connect的条件太严格
建议:
1。加上魅力po上来让姐妹们给你改改profile,不好意思的话拿去给身边姐妹改改也行,记得找那种换了好几个男朋友的,不要找一个男朋友就结婚了的那种姐妹
2。po一些对话上来,大家看看跟你聊天是不是有趣
3。放宽自己filter,即使不在自己严选范围内,也connect,聊天甚至见面当做练手,这样你遇到那个他才知道怎么一举成功
yueyueyue 发表于 1/2/2020 5:38:26 PM 如何用dating apps/websites一周至少见两到三个男生 ?-7楼


Thank you for you comments, yueyueyue :)
我的profile(short version for app and long version for match/eharmony/OK Cupid)有参照小麦mm的文章写draft并拍照+选照片, 再请用online dating apps/website成功找到另一半并且订婚的好朋友, 还有另外一位好友的曾经用过online dating apps/website的未婚夫和他的男性友人,一起帮我逐字review,像改CV / cover letter一样 (3位都是native speaker并都有graduate degree, 所以文法和用字遣词/sentence structure应该还行)修订我的内容, 也请两位男士帮我挑照片/排序,如果不好意思给板上姐妹们看+也没有其他用dating app/websites成功的闺蜜的话,我还可以如何做呢?

另一方面,很有可能是聊天内容不够有趣/flirty,所以对话无法进展到让男生约我见面, 我贴一下几个之前的对话,大家帮我看看?  我这方面真的悟性很差,也不知道要如何在短期之内快速提高,  年龄越来越大,真的好着急,小麦mm之前的文章有cover一些见面后的对话,但这个部分比较没有着墨,那几本推荐的书也没有着墨这个”如何发有趣的短信让男人想跟你见面”,之前有看一位mm分享(“这半年Online dating 20多人一点实战经验和个人看法 。如何发短信”),无奈我资质愚钝,还是领悟不来,大家可以分享一下你们是如何提高的吗? 感谢!

Sample 1:
Guy: trying to watch as much golf and nfl as possible!
ur projects def. sound exciting!
Me: How long have you been playing golf? Are you really good at it? Haha, they are super exciting projects :D Any plans for your holidays?
Guy: like 20 years I think - i used to be good, but was terrible last weekend!
No big plans for the week, what about u
Me: 20 years! It's a long time! Yeah, you don't practice it, you lose it. I just came back from XXX. Spend my holidays with my family :) Will relax this week :)
然后男生就不理我了…

Sample 2:
Guy: Hi XXXXXX! What’s something you’ve learned to cook recently?
Me: I’ve tried miso salmon tofu recently. Sooooo good!!! And you?
Guy: Oh wow that sounds great! I’m a big salmon eater. I’m not a great chef but I found a seafood paella recipe online recently, and it turned out really well! Easier than I thought.
Me: I feel that cooking is like doing the scientific experiment….but you can eat the final product :D
Guy: Haha true! I think it’s also a creative expression. So I guess it’s both an art and a science! A piece of art that exists only for a few minutes and then is gone forever
Me: haha, exactly!!! :D
然后男生就不理我了, again…
最后编辑Misoshiru 最后编辑于 2020-01-02 22:43:07
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你聊天内容确实无趣
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LZ你要发掘一下你的女性潜质,不要像朋友一样聊天,要像女人一样,概括来说就是flirty,teasing, bold,feminine,witty, 倒不是所有这些要同时存在,时而这样,时而那样
而且我一般不谈有的没的,直接问我感兴趣的,大家一般没有时间和陌生人谈些平淡的内容。当然如果我对男生不感兴趣,我就会趋向像朋友一样聊天,或者刚开始不确定,就从朋友开始尝试,然后迅速决定要不要进一步发展。如果一直像朋友一样,对方可能会lose attention
最后编辑icecreamca 最后编辑于 2020-01-02 23:31:24
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Sample 2里面男的说做seafood paella recipe你应该问他咋做的这才是聊天顺着思路
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